When we dine out and the server delivers dessert in the form of 1/4 of a pie, we have a tendency to abdicate responsibility for our ability to finish whatever is put in front of us (“I didn’t put that on the plate, I’m just the lucky recipient!”). In fact, this is part of the reason many people enjoy dining in restaurants.
It’s probably a good idea to split dessert. The caveat: Never share a plate. That thing where they deliver the enormous slab of cake and 4 forks inevitably leads to an eating contest to get the delicate sliver at the tip, then the icing off the back…you get the picture.
Ask for your own plate, or to have the thing pre-split. Tell the server you aren’t good at sharing. They always seem to believe me when I say it..
If your partner eats like a raptor and goes after yours, you can always stab at him/her a little with your fork, though I don’t recommend this on a first date (unless there won’t be a second date or they seem litigious about being assaulted with a fork).
What? You are eating with someone on some diet who doesn’t want dessert or is just not really human and doesn’t have a sweet tooth? Don’t forgo dessert because of them. Order dessert and ask to have it split, with the other half placed in a to-go container. Tomorrow there will be more dessert for you! If, while you enjoy your guilt-free serving, you notice sad-doggy looks, they won’t belong to your happy face.
Always leave a good tip for a server who goes the extra mile. They’ll be thrilled to help you get that torte into a to go container next time.